Morning everyone. Hope you all have a fantastic day.
Here’s your daily dose of Guy Love.
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standing up for feminine men is the masculine thing to do, belittling them is bitchy, insecure, and miserable. i get kind of disgusted by dudes who self identify as “tops” but then belittle femmes or even masculine bottoms.
and actually that goes for straight bros too, you are attracted to femininity (right?) but you put it down. what’s that about?
seriously, why would you look down on someone for wanting to have sex with you? that is so creepy.
as far as i can tell it partly comes from how our society is built from victim-bystander-bully protocols. pointing out that someone else is more eligible for victimization than you while downplaying your own traits that may signal your own eligibility feels like it lessens the probability that you will be victimized. real masculine, bro. you give bullies power when you do this. you make yourself easily manipulated. you are buying into and embodying the victim-bystander-bully protocols. lame.
but i also think it comes from the vulnerability of toppping. one does not have to like what one is doing to bottom, but one does have to like what one is doing to top. that creates a kind of vulnerability for a top, and i think there is often an attempt to counter it by projecting it, one way or another onto bottoms & women. it’s a temporary fix.
and yeah i know this gets amplified, played out and explored in bdsm stuff, and i don’t think there is anything wrong with that if there is EXPRESS CONSENT from all parties involved. bdsm happens within a circle of play, and to be within that circle one must give consent to be there. without consent you have no right to involve others in yr fantasies in your every day life, no matter how naturalized you’ve made the fantasies in yr mind.
taking things without asking is a sign of weakness, of low self esteem. it means you don’t think you are capable of getting things without using force, trickery or coercion. disrespecting someones boundaries isn’t a sign of power, it’s a sign that you have so little self worth that you feel you need to rob it from others.
asking doesn’t entitle you, but not asking earns you no worth. and in that sense, things like rape are not sex. they are abuse, they are a fistfight. they are not sex. they give the rapist nothing but their own worthlessness reflected back at them, en force.so, yeah, don’t play yourself by bashing, stand up instead.
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this ones for the KZA to practice dancing like Jelly Roll, ha
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Lessandro Reyniers for August Man Singapore
